Now, it may be because I don’t often sunburn, because my backyard is the ultimate spot to beat the heat, or because I have the best seasonal job in existence, but I LOVE summer. It’s the season to let your hair air-dry, to actually make use of your clothesline, and enjoy the absolute ,mood swinging power of good old Mr. Sun.
I’m not saying summer doesn’t have it’s downfalls, but honestly, no number of mosquito bites could turn me off the summer season. Flip flop tans sun-bleached hair,, and the undying supply of lobster-red civilians are just a few of the star attractions during the summer months. However, more entertaining than babies on the beach, more exciting than the majority of summer festivals and fairs, and infinitely more enjoyable than any family vacay, is my favourite part of summer: the summer fling. The rush of a sort of relationship deadline, the bounty of free time, and the general excitement and geniality of the summer season all contribute to the formation of these seasonal love affairs that have come to be known as “summer flings.”
A summer fling can happen anywhere. Whether you spend the summer abroad, flirting with Frenchmen, or land a new summer job with a hot young lifeguard, the opportunities are endless. Summer is the prime time to meet new people, try new things, take some risks, and delve into uncharted territory. You don’t even have to travel; everyone’s a little more adventurous in the summer, so that number you got at your friend’s prom party, or that cute volunteer you met at the fireworks are entirely viable options.
Now, I’m not saying that summer is time to whore yourself out to anyone who gives you a second look. A summer fling isn’t an excuse to get slutty for a few months without repercussions. If you get knocked up in the summer, you’ll still be knocked up in the fall; this isn’t Vegas. However, if you happen to come across a potential candidate, don’t bitch out; man up! Grow a pair and actually put yourself out there. I’ve been the chaser and the chased, and I can honestly say that:
a) I don’t see nothing wrong with a little bump n grind, and
b) These “flings” are totally beneficial. Here are just a few reasons for let your fling flag fly.
TEST DRIVE: Summer relationships are usually treated less seriously than any other season. For whatever reason, be it the reputation of flings or steamy heat and lack of clothes, there’s just less pressure. So use it! Take a risk with someone this summer, and know that if it doesn’t work out, or doesn’t pay off, you tried, and there’s no time lost—only experience gained.
EXPERIENCE/EXPERIMENTS: Another bonus: less expectations. You can be whoever you want in a summer fling; experiment and find out what you like! Having summer flings expands your horizons, and letting someone new in (at the very least) will let you try new things. Giving different people a chance (even if it’s just grabbing a beer or an ice cream with someone new) will give you an opportunity to figure out what you like, what you’re looking for. I’m a firm believer in experiments and experience: when you take all your opportunities (even the ones that don’t end well) as they come, you have a margin to decide what kind of person you are, and the kind of person you’re looking for. I just don’t think you can know what you want until you’ve experienced what you don’t.
SUMMER PARADISE: From classics like Grease’s “Summer Lovin’” to the recent Sean Paul, Simple Plan summer collaboration “Summer Paradise,” summer love songs take over the airwaves during the steamy summer months. There’s little better to illustrate my point than some testimonials from a few summer love anthems by some summer fling kings you can trust:
“Standing on your mama’s porch, you told me that you’d wait forever. Oh, when you held my hand I knew that it was now or never, those were the best days of my life, back in the Summer of 69.”
-Bryan Adams, “Summer of 69”
“I can’t wait to fall in love with you, you can’t wait to fall in love with me.”
-Justin Timberlake, “Summer Love”
“I’d give away a thousand days just to have another one with you. Where real life can wait, we’re crashing like waves, we’re playing in the sand, holding your hand. I remember every sunset, I remember every word you said.”
-Simple Plan, “Summer Paradise” ft Sean Paul
“When you say my name in the middle of the day, I swear I see the stars come out. When you’re holding my hand, in the back of my mind I’m just waiting on the sun to go down.”
-Keith Urban, “Long Hot Summer”
“Guys out hunting and girls doing likewise, honking at the honey in front of you with the light eyes, she turn around to see what you beeping at; it’s like summer’s a natural aphrodisiac.”
-Will Smith & Jazzy Jeff “Summertime”
“Sometimes I’ll hear that song, and I’ll start to sing along and think man, I’d like to see that girl again.”
-Kid Rock, All Summer Long
“Summer lovin’, had me a blast, summer lovin’, happened so fast.
-“Summer Lovin’” from Grease
All those summer love songs can’t be wrong, right? And even if nothing comes of your fling, you’ve got a summer of experience under your belt, and experience is never going to hurt in the long run, so grab your favourite summer outfit, go out, and enjoy your summer, stress free!